Pauline
LostCousins Megastar
Peter, I accept that my reply to you yesterday evening was probably terser than it should have been, but if you review our exchange above you may realise that it was not what you said but the way that you said it that got under my skin - the all too familiar assumption that yours is the only right way of doing things, and that I don't have the intelligence or experience to have worked out the best way for me to keep in touch with my research cousins. Not only are round robins not my thing - I prefer a more individual and personal approach - I have amassed too many correspondents over the years for this to be viable.Because they didn't get the answers they wanted.
Moreover, I don't think the way I manage my correspondence has any bearing on how I feel about offering to give DNA kits to distant cousins and asking them to let me view or manage their results in return. It may be true that I am being overly sensitive about other people's feelings, but I would much rather be that than risk riding roughshod over them.
So as I suggested before, let's agree to disagree and move on. I was interested to know how you approach distant cousins to ask them to do a DNA test for you, and you've already answered that for me, thank you.