I HAVE taken the private route where alternatives were not available, but few were worthwhile, and many were frustrating. In all the time I have been researching I can truthfully say only once was the private route a success. (Even that was not on a par with finding two cousins -and whole new families - via the public route).
Bob, of course it's easier for you when the other person's tree is public - how could it not be?
You have to remember that there are actually 4 options for Ancestry members:
- public tree
- searchable private tree
- unsearchable private tree
- no tree at all
(It's also possible to have multiple trees with different settings.)
There will always be a significant proportion of researchers who are not prepared to give away information about themselves (and their family) to absolutely anyone with an Ancestry subscription. No doubt some would be prepared to allow access to a limited subset of subscribers, eg DNA matches, but that isn't an option Ancestry currently provide.
Whether an Ancestry member responds to a message clearly isn't determined by whether their tree is public or private. Inevitably you find it frustrating when a cousin with a private tree doesn't respond, but the other side of the coin is that there are many people with public trees who do not respond when errors are pointed out to them. For someone whose close family members, sometimes people they knew as a child, are misrepresented that is not only frustrating but can be very hurtful.
The argument, therefore, is not about whether public trees or private trees are best, because that is a personal decision. Unless Ancestry change the system my tree will remain private no matter what you say, just as yours will remain public no matter what I say. We are both making informed choices.
But there are many who do not make informed choices, hence my occasional newsletter articles on the topic. Even those of us who believe we have made informed decisions might not be aware of all the ins and outs - as this discussion has proved.
And there will always be some who, whilst prepared to exchange information with cousins, don't feel it's right for their cousins to take information without either asking or reciprocating. If your cousins have chosen to have a searchable private tree you should be grateful - they could have had an unsearchable tree, or no tree at all.
Now that DNA testing has come to the fore there are more choices to be made.
When you test with Ancestry you have the option of being matched with others who share the same DNA segments, and if you choose to enter into the matching process (as all family historians presumably will) there's then the decision about which tree (if any) to attach to your results. For those who already have a public tree it's usually fairly easy to decide, but the rest of us it's much more difficult.
Some might choose to attach a public ancestors-only tree to their results, but have a more detailed private tree; I believe it would be better to do it the other way round (ie attach the detailed private tree to the DNA results), but a lot depends on the search strategies that your cousins employ.